Be Kind: Treat everyone Like it’s their Last Day

Lorraine Carlson was my godmother, the one who took care of me and my family when I was born in Nebraska. After I moved away, she would religiously send me a letter and a check every year for my birthday when I was growing up in Canada. 

I remember the last time almost 6-7 years ago when I last saw her. It was in San Francisco when she was visiting her son. We were scheduled to meet them for lunch. But due to work and my own disorganization/lack of prioritization we were over an hour late. It was just a terrible & disrespectful act on my part. 

I tend to do this as I always put my career ahead of family, as I just take them for granted. I wish I could say it was just due to my youth and stupidity, but I was in my early 40s. But we still had a nice time together. I recall when we parted, she cried. She might have had a premonition that that was the last time we would meet. It sadly was the case, as she passed away last year in 2022. God rest her soul.  

It fills me with shame when I think back to that day. I wish I was more diligent with my personal life versus the work, that I was actually on time. I wish I was more thoughtful & patient towards people. All people, but especially towards my family and loved ones. 

James Altucher once said you need to treat people like they will be dead tomorrow. This way you are more understanding, patient with others and just let stupid & petty things slide. I have been trying to do this more this year. 

And to also extend this to everyone I run into. To make allowances for people and their failings. I hope you do the same. The world can do with much more kindness and understanding. And of course, please tip your waiter/waitress/server really well.