Life is Unfair: Get Over It

I do remember all the times when things didn’t go my way or when I’m treated badly or unfairly. I’d get angry and curse the world and well, everything. 

As I’ve gotten older and hopefully wiser, I’ve slowly realized how stupid this is. Blaming other people, other things, the world or the situation is futile. And a complete waste of energy. 

Shake it off. Expect nothing from anyone. Louis L'amour wrote in one of my favorite Westerns “Flint”: 

“Don’t trust anyone, even me. To trust is a weakness. It ain’t necessarily that folks are bad, but they are weak and afraid. Be your own man. Go your own way.”

The way forward is understanding that you can’t control what other people do to you, but you can control how you react. Hopefully with less anger and rage than I do.  

I recall a great quote from the patriarch, John Dutton of the tv series Yellowstone: 

“Let me tell you what fair means. Fair means one side got exactly what they wanted in a way the other side can’t complain about. There is no such thing as fair.”

The sooner one realizes this, the better they can move forward with dealing with all the hard things life inevitably throws at you.