Revenge is a Dish Best Served Cold?: Living Well is Winning

Anyone in business or life, who is trying to do anything big or meaningful, will always end up having scores to settle. With a ledger to track and to keep clean. People who have done wrong, cheated or lied to us with malicious intent. I’ve certainly run into many of these people in Silicon Valley. My ledger is very long. 

In fact, if I’m honest, they are the motivation and drive to do more, get more money, to drive more influence to prove them wrong. And also get into a better position to get back at them.  Or perhaps a stronger position to ensure they never hurt you or your interests again. To hit and hurt them back someway or somehow. 

But after 2 decades of this, I’m starting to realize this is just not sustainable at all. And in fact, it’s completely unhealthy. You can only hate so much. Rage gets you only so far. It burns you out. Too much tension is just plain unhealthy for you. It simmers beneath, and grinds and chips away at your soul. 

The best way forward is not necessarily forgiveness. I am not that mature or enlightened yet. But I’m focusing on living the best life you possibly can. Doing all the things I’ve wanted to do. Pushing myself and Living the grand adventures I always dreamed about. Going all out because the only person you are accountable to is yourself and your family. 

Take your leash off. Move single-mindedly to make a life so awesome you forget these awful people. Who will be little blips and ghosts in your memory. Just leave them in the rear view mirror. 

The best revenge is treating them like the non entities that they are. Maybe that’s good enough for now.