Becoming a Complete And Better You: The New Modern Renaissance Man
Aubrey Marcus’ “Own your Day, Own Your Life” was one of the most important books I read.
A great book that showed you how to have command of every aspect of your life if you want to have a true life. Your diet, exercise, physical health, family & relationships, mental health, business and financial and romantic life. If you aren’t working on these all the time it will come back to haunt you.
This is exactly what happened to me. I focused too much on my career and let myself and my family life decay. It took a lot of personal work to fix it over the last few years. And a lot of it was because I lost the respect of my wife due to me losing respect for myself due to issues at work. Indignity after indignity at work eventually bleeds into your home life.
There is a funny scene in the excellent movie “Crazy Stupid Love” where a family man finds himself mentored by a playboy Jacob after getting cheated on by his wife. Jacob tells him: “Your wife cheated on you because you lost sight of who you are as a man, a husband and probably a lover.”
Now I’m lucky, I did not have infidelity issues with my wife but we were separated & apart for a while. It wasn’t good for a few years. But it was a wake up call for me to sort myself out.
So many men let themselves go. They say they did everything right, by society’s standards. And they probably have. But they stopped developing and growing personally. They stopped investing in themselves and improving on every level that matters. No surprise, their wives begin to look down on them or disrespect them.
The reality is they only respect you if you are strong and have your Sh-t together. No one respects the weak or stupid. There is no excuse to have a dad bod or be out of shape. Go do more sit ups and push ups! Learn a martial art or do some hard physical training.
Jack D Coulson tweeted: “Don’t be rich and fat. Don’t be fit and poor. Have both.”
Have big massive goals and figure out your personally inspiring life mission. Be interesting and aspire to become greater.
There is no excuse to be financially unstable. Read a book, learn business and Go Do the work.
You have to be both tender and capable of hard physical activity. Justin Waller said that: “you have to be able to slit throats and also hold a baby.”
Honestly, there is no point having great wealth without the corresponding health & vigor. There is no point having a powerful body without financial resources and a powerful intellect. It’s about becoming a full & complete man. Jordan Peterson adds: “Become a Controlled Monster.”
Why? Quoting Peterson again: “It’s Better to be a warrior in a garden than a Gardener in a War.”
And make no mistake, war is coming. It is always coming. Mark my words, life is going to become much tougher for everyone. It might not be imminent but it’s inevitable. So all men have a duty to prepare and toughen up. And while doing so, maybe their lives will get better at the same time.